Anonymous said: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
And people wonder why I hate that book series! Stop popularizing rape culture seriously.
This appeared on my FB from a wonderful family I’ve gotten to know:
Heroes” of Cosplay, and Close encounters of the horrible kind…
The Costume Contest from Hell
My children and I (and a friend with a tin dog) spent months working on costumes and thousands of dollars in fees, costume supplies, hotel room, rental van, food, and more fees to attend Wizard World Comic Con New Orleans. We were really looking forward to entering the costume contest as a group, not as serious competitors, but for one purpose and one purpose only: to help my autistic son have life experiences that are memorable and worthwhile that move him forward and help him grow and be happy. He LOVES Doctor Who and conventions and cosplay. LOVES them. So, in my naivete, I decided that even though the SyFy channel’s questionably ethic’ed show Heroes of Cosplay was filming at the venue, we would be okay if we kept our focus and stayed true to our family goals of fun and cosplay.
See, without a goal (a costume contest), it is hard to get anyone really to finish something at any sort of level of excellence. I want my children to understand that hard work is its own reward, and that we work hard so that WE will gain the benefits of the work. Winning is really not a goal in and of itself, and if it happens, it is simply one extra bit of fun. So, I had practiced with my son what he would do, helped him visualize how it would be, and prepped him for some waiting in line work (which is excruciating for autistic kids, but VERY important to keep experiencing so they develop strategies and skills for doing it on a small scale in daily life).
Here is the timeline of depraved indifference shown to the contestants of the Group Costume Contest, courtesy of “Heroes of Cosplay” and Wizard World Comic Con New Orleans:
6:30 PM—-the call time. We arrived early (6:00 PM) so we could get in the front of the line so that my son would be done as quickly as humanly possible.
6:55 PM—the line is told we are in the wrong place and moved further away from the entrances to the hall.
7:20 PM—cameras following some people I did not recognize came through the line and did some interviews with line members and what I presume were cast members of the show. They stayed for a few minutes and departed.
7:25 PM—first encounter with anyone official from Wizard World Comic Con New Orleans and we are told to line up in number order, groups on the wall side, solo competitors on the opposite side by the escalators.
7:45 PM—the solo competitors were called individually by name, which took forever, and marched into the backstage area. We were told we would be waiting approximately 45 minutes until we would get to go on.
8:15 or so—someone came out who worked for Wizard world and said it would be 20-45 more minutes, without really explaining why.
Then, everyone official just vanished, like they’d gone backstage and friggin’ died.
9:15 or so (I’m starting at this point to lose track of time, as my son decompensates further and further and we have to work every single minute to keep him calm and focused, thinking “surely, since the audience is leaving in droves that any minute now we’d get to go do our 1 minute thirty second thing and go home”)—an official from Wizard World Comic Con New Orleans came out and informed the groups that there would be a 45 minute break while THE JUDGES CHANGED COSTUME.
I cannot stress this enough: this was the most ridiculous moment in the whole evening for me. My son had not been out of his costume for well over three hours at this point. He had not been able to eat dinner exactly because we figured we could get food when we were done, since we had gotten there early on purpose so we’d be in the front of the line, and to hear this was offensive and hurtful. The judges were changing costume, presumably getting refreshments and having a smoke break. We’d been sitting on the floor for hours.
At this point we also discovered that the awards ceremony for the solo competitors had already happened, which explained the audience leaving in droves we’d witnessed earlier.
10:00 PM—yep, that’s right, 10:00 PM and we’re still in the hall. A dude brought us some water and there was some perfunctory apologizing from the Wizard World Comic Con New Orleans staff, and the stars of the Heroes of Cosplay were wandering around now in our line a bit.
10:30 PM—we are hurried (wait, give me a break, NOW WE are expected to hurry because you are barking orders at us) to a backstage area, where the line is informed that there is not enough time for anyone to be allowed to do their skits. The line behind is growing restless, if not possibly murderous…
I went to a Wizard World official and begged them to let my son just go do his thing. He was crying, overwhelmed, and traumatized by all that had happened and all I wanted at that point was to get him on stage, let him do the skit and go home. I chose to sacrifice actually competing so that he could have some closure on the evening, and to Wizard World’s credit, they did in fact let us do just that. There were no judges to see him, because they were still not out yet, but that’s okay. My son had made it through four hours of all of that and only lost it when the adults were chanting and stomping “Let us Go! Let us GO!”
10:50 PM We are allowed to do our skit for the audience members, but not for the judges, who were not there yet.
I would like to thank the Wizard World person who made the decision to let our little skit happen. I feel for the people in line who went through all of this and were not allowed to even do what they came to do. I will never watch Heroes of Cosplay again, and I plan on sharing my story with SyFy, all of the shows sponsors, Wizard World, and anyone else who loves cosplay.
Before anyone asks me “why don’t you just put him in the children’s contest?” I’m going to point out that by and large the children’s contests I’ve seen are not about excellence and this one was no exception. It was a photo op for parents and a toy grab for kids. No awards were given. I cannot teach my children about excellence if there is no standard to aspire to. Besides, I prefer to cosplay as a family whenever possible, for reasons that have more to do with his disability than anything else. We do this together because it means something to us. It’s fun, it’s worth it, even when it’s hard and disappointing.
A final bit of opinion from an angry, hurt mom: There are a thousand better ways to handle this. If you are having two separate contests (solo and group), schedule them at different times. If you want to show off your television show prowess, do it as an exhibition at the end, publicize it as such, and make it special for everyone, and then you can make it perfect and beautiful and knock the socks off of all the competitors and set a standard all of us would like to aspire to, but please don’t pretend you are competing with us.
I feel like this shouldn’t fall into obscurity just yet.
Wow, for a bunch of people claiming to all be a part of that show’s bullshit “love and acceptance” deal, you sure are a bunch of hypocrites for sending someone hate and bullying them over what someone else said to them. Enough that they don’t even want to do what they did already in the past.
That’s just sad a group of people are that fucking stupid that they can’t see they’re exactly the pieces of shit they seem to think everyone else is.
I’m sure your “Heroes” are so proud of the way you’re behaving.
I bet the editors are just tickled pink.
Can’t believe I still log in and see more shit in my inbox.
Seriously, let’s think about it for a second. That fucking show lied in the past a LOT.
The show purposely edited and manipulated footage to make people not involved with the show look awful, and were found out.
The show purposely stole photographs from a photographer and made a conscious effort edit out any marks proving who the photos belonged to, and had to settle out of court to avoid a lawsuit (or had the guy taken out.)
And the very cast of this same fucking show have had to back-peddle every fucking week the first season just to retain some small semblance of dignity and integrity.
So why is it that what happened at Wizard World New Orleans seems like such a stretch now? That’s so hard to believe that they essentially pulled the SAME SHIT as before?
There is plenty of shit going around the internet over what happened, and not just that one article that actually bothered to help compile plenty of them in one easy to find place.
Sometimes I just don’t get people. I really don’t.
-Find good friends that you can cosplay with
and talk about behind their backs!
-Work really hard, and maybe you can win a contest!
or just get on a show that guarantees the results in your favor
-Cosplay is for everyone and should be fun!
Unless of course you don’t have a perfect body type, or worse, the character isn’t your same gender
-If you happen to not win,
make your opponents out to be bullies and bitches. Be sure to cry for the camera some toohave good sportsmanship
Most of all, if people call you out on questionable or dishonest behavior of you or the show,
lie like none of it happened and OH WOE IS ME EVERYONE HATES ME AND EVERY SINGLE PERSON WHO SAYS ANYTHING IS A LIAR AND A BULLY. NONE OF THOSE DOZENS OF ACCOUNTS THAT ALL LINE UP ARE TRUE. NONE OF IT IS TRUE. SOB. DIS I MENTION I DONATE TO CHARITY I BET YOU DONT SO THEREbe sure to be honest and explain what is going on so everyone feels better!
Oh, and learning how to use worbla was pretty nice.
I think if you’re going to do a show/video about that article, might try doing some research into it as well. Makes you look pretty silly when the best you can come up with “Oh, you’re just jealous” and claim better when, technically, you’re stealing people’s images as well for your own monetized videos.
reeson said: Look, I know you're upset with how the show went down in New Orleans (I should know, too, I was there), but the way you handled that with Holly was completely uncalled for. Our anger should be aimed at the producers of the show primarily, not the people on it. They're not the first and foremost problem with that show. Honestly, why you might not look up to her or respect her, she is still a person, and I you need to tone it back and apologize.
I don’t think it was. I didn’t call her any names or use foul languaage. I said what I think needed to be said. I think it is completely uncalled for for them to be part of a show like this. If they don’t want backlash, then I’m sorry, but either get off the show or change it so that it is honest. I am really tired of seeing tons of cosplayers and congoers having terrible experiences because of HoC. She can call me a hate monger or whatever, I know I’m not. I try to be slow to judge people, and I have with HoC. At a certain point it is an insult to our intelligence to act like nothing is wrong or happening on that show. I’m tired of people getting away with this sort of behavior and playing victim, when the real victim are all the honest, nice people who got slighted so the show would look good.
And yes, I’m mad at everyone who takes part in the show. Because if they are a part of it and knows what is going on (or worse, try to cover it up), then they are just as guilty.
I’m extremely saddened by it all. I really respected the people on this show before it started and I am so disappointed at the behavior. I guess that is what you get when people care more about ratings and drama than actual cosplay and treating people well.
And I understand where you’re coming from, and I understand the anger behind it all. Trust me, I really do. I know just about every single person on that “Truth about Heroes of Cosplay” article and their stories. I know.
But think of it from this sort of stand point. If you go into this or approach her with that sort of heated attitude, accusing her of being a liar and a cheater and being on a “disgusting” show, so you really think she’ll answer anything honestly? Do you think she’d want to answer at all? I don’t know of many that would. It’s just easier to make it out like you’re attacking her.
And then think of it this way, she answered it, it’s on her tumblr now, a lot of people follow her on tumblr. So when she posted it it’s immediately at the top the most popular’ posts and is one of the first things people see is this, which paints the whole situation in the light of, “Oh they’re getting harassed by a bunch of haters” thanks to how she replied.
In a way, it hurts the cause of the people at that convention who were actually hurt by the show, and if gives them on the show another chance to try and put forth what may or may not be more misinformation.
Getting answers is important, yes, but going at it in a reasonable, rational way works infinitely better in this situation. Especially when there are plenty of people willing to believe what ever they say anyway.